Courtship in My Parent’s Time and My Time

Find your own true love is one of the important things during the whole life. Everyone has different experiences of love, and courtship is a necessary process of love. In different period, the forms of courtship are different, too. Just like the world is changing all the time; the courtship between my parents’ time and now is quite different in three major aspects: who is the active person, the way of the courtship, and how to get a commitment.
First of all, the active person in courtship has changed. Chinese girls were shy before, and mostly men were the active persons in my parents’ time. If a girl said that she loved a boy boldly, other would think that she was not like a girl because the girls must be reserved at that time. Sometimes they didn’t even chose who they wanted and just married the person who was introduced by their parents, whereas now both girls and boys can be active person, everyone has the right to pursue love. It’s fine for girls to confess their love to boys although the boys don’t love them.
Moreover, because of the change of active person, the way of the courtship is more and more varied now. In the past, the courtship was kind of simple like sent a love letter. Most boys were clumsy and didn’t know how to express their love, just as my father rode a bicycle for 2 hour to see my mother’s university and could only stay there for a little time while he didn't say too much and just brought some food fruit for my mother. On the other hand we have a lot of different way to court such as give roses to girls, ask for a date, watch movie, and so on. Young people always want something new; they want some surprises. So, sending some little presents for anniversary is a really good way for courtship. People are getting more and more open now.
In addition, after courtship how to reply for the courtship in different time is different, too. In my parents’ time, although a girl and boy loved each other, girls were always euphemistic to the boys’ love. Not only the girls were too shy to respond, but also the boys were. It would take them a long time to go steady. By comparison we are all more direct, and most of the time we just tell others if we receive their love or not. People can just refuse when they face a person whom they don't love. Of course people will feel sorry for that person, but if they don't tell him the truth, it will bring much more hurt.
The courtship has changed greatly and obviously in these three aspects: which person pursues the other, courtship process, and how they reply for the courtship; therefore, keep up with the time, the change of courtship is still going on. Maybe all the things are changing in courtship now while the heart of looking for true love will not change, and what we do is to just show others our love.